Do We Really Need Another Gadget To Help Us Get Well, Be Well, and Stay Well?
As someone who is now a member of the wellness industry with the work I do, I find myself looking at this industry through a new and different lens: examining my beliefs and perceptions about wellbeing and how they are (or are not) reflected in the industry, what this means for me personally and professionally, and what this means for how I work with my clients.
This contemplation has led me to look deeply at a lot of the “buzz words” I see circulating on social media and how these words may impact the “everyday” person who is looking to make improvements in their life to support their wellbeing. Here’s a list of some words I’m seeing that have caused me to pause and contemplate (as you read this list, see if any of these words brings up thoughts, feelings, or any type of reaction):
- holistic
- wellness
- fasting
- plant-based
- macro
- keto
- yoga
- meditation
- clean
- cleanse
- optimal
- longevity
- healing
- crystals
- plant medicine
- vagus nerve
- energy healing
- natural
- detox
- self-care
- conscious
- ancestral healing
- healing journey
- cycle syncing
- sleep hygiene
(Please feel free to drop a comment below this article with any words that you would add to this list as it is certainly not exhaustive!)
If you type in any one of the words on the list above into a search engine (or even as a hashtag on social media), chances are you will find yourself in a deep rabbit hole with an overload of (often conflicting) information. I have found myself so deep in rabbit holes online that I leave the search feeling drained (yet overstimulated, ugh!) and ultimately just generally confused about whether whatever I searched for is a good idea for the wellbeing of myself or my clients.
We can make wellbeing as simple or as complex as we like...I go for simplicity!
As I mentioned in my last article, I value simplicity as a huge part of the foundation of my wellbeing and as I look at this list, the first thing I see is complexity! There are so many programs, plans, apps, concepts, opinions, fads, and subscriptions that you can buy into out there in the wellness industry that for me personally, I didn’t even know where to begin…so I found myself feeling frustrated and even tuned out (and of course, it’s hard to know who to trust and if they truly have my wellbeing at the heart of their offer or if it’s just about making some money off of me).
For me professionally, I find myself feeling overwhelmed at the amount of information and offers out there that I have wondered what I can possibly bring to the table that isn’t already out there? (then I quickly shift that because while my offers may already be out there in various ways from other practitioners, none of them are me with my uniqueness that is value added…plus there’s room for everyone and we each have our special way of being and doing!).
Let's look at wellbeing with the perspective of awareness, love, and compassion as the foundation
A strength that I have that has been honed and developed over the past few decades is to take things that feel or look complex and break them down in a way to create accessibility for everyone so I am turning this strength towards how I approach wellbeing with my clients (and all of that information overload that’s out there!).
Does wellbeing need to be so complex? Do we really need another app to help us track our progress? Do we really need another gadget to help us get well, be well, and stay well? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that there aren’t great things out there that can support wellbeing but how does one navigate through all of the clutter in the wellbeing industry to get to what works for them? How does one make this more simple?
My life experience and training has brought me to look at wellbeing through the perspective of 3 foundational aspects and to apply this lens to when I am wading through social media and the internet (and really just life in general!):
- Awareness
- Love
- Compassion
I believe that cultivating awareness, love, and compassion is one simple way to approach wellbeing and can help to lessen the complexity of wellbeing that is out there on the internet and social media.
There are so many programs, plans, apps, concepts, opinions, fads, and subscriptions that you can buy into out there in the wellness industry that for me personally, I didn’t even know where to begin…
Let’s first take a look at awareness. If we are not living our lives from a place of awareness, then we are running on auto-pilot and allowing our subconscious to lead our lives. Without awareness, we are reacting to our life experiences as opposed to consciously responding to them and this leaves us in a confused and disempowered state (not wellbeing).
When we choose to cultivate awareness, we are choosing to take an active role in the process of life. As we cultivate awareness, we can shine that light of awareness on our habits, our thoughts, our goals, our desires…anywhere that we choose to shine that light and that’s where we can begin to create deep and lasting transformation (and figure out where to “go” next!). We can’t change what we aren’t even aware of!
You might be thinking, wait a minute, if it’s all about awareness then I need to be aware of everything out there so I can make an informed decision so how does this help me to simplify anything?
When I speak of awareness as a foundation to wellbeing, it starts with self-awareness. Getting to know yourself, getting to know your energy, getting to know your needs, getting to know your beliefs…for example, before you go down the rabbit hole of say healthy eating and what will work best for you, ask yourself “what are my current eating habits? Why do I want to make changes in this area of my life? What are my beliefs around food and eating?” Try turning these questions inward first before you go straight to a Google search.
As you cultivate self-awareness, your next steps for your own unique wellbeing will begin to reveal themselves as you get to know yourself better (and then this is where discernment comes in…that’s a blog article for another day!).
Now let’s talk about love and compassion as the other foundational perspectives to look at wellbeing with. It may seem hokey or really hippie crunchy to talk about love and compassion as the answers, but they really are!
Just like awareness, the love and compassion aspects of wellbeing start with yourself: self-love and self-compassion.
For many of us, myself included for a long time in my journey, we don’t truly and deeply love ourselves unconditionally. When we start digging deeper into self-love and making this a focus for our wellbeing, so many other aspects of wellbeing will fall into place once we are comfortably seated in the place of really loving ourselves.
Let’s go back to the example I used for awareness with the rabbit hole of healthy eating and let’s use the lens of self-love here. In my journey to loving myself unconditionally, I realized that putting too much shitty food in my body didn’t align with loving myself unconditionally (notice I said “too much”…I do believe in moderation and enjoying the pleasures of life, even with food!).
I remember when my first son turned 1 in 1997, I didn’t allow him to have cake at his birthday party with sugar in it because I so deeply wanted to give him the best start in life. After the party, there I am stuffing my face with the sweets I wouldn’t allow him to have because I loved him so much (and what about me?).
I realized many, many years later on my journey that I wasn’t loving myself unconditionally the way I was loving my children and I also realized that having some sugar in your life doesn’t make you an awful person (or an unhealthy person either!). When I began to love myself more and more, I naturally wanted to choose healthier things to put in my body as an act of self-love. This felt very different from the pressure of “omg I need to eat healthy, count all the calories, count the macros, follow Weight Watchers, blah, blah…” Coming from a place of loving myself and wanting to take the best care of myself feels much more simple, aligned, and soft.
Lastly, let’s look at wellbeing through the lens of compassion, starting with self-compassion. The Miriam Webster dictionary defines compassion as “sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.” (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/compassion)
It’s always been easy for me to cultivate compassion for others but it has been a-not-always-so-easy practice to learn to show compassion for myself (and I am still practicing this!). When we begin to look at the suffering that we create for ourselves (with our minds especially) we can practice cultivating compassion for ourselves on our journey.
For me, cultivating compassion for myself takes the pressure off that I often put on myself that I would never put onto someone else (we are often so much harder on ourselves than we need to be!). Let’s go back to our example of healthy eating and look at it through the lens of compassion.
I have a very active sweet tooth and there was a time in my life when I would choose dessert over “real” food anytime I allowed myself the opportunity (especially after my divorce when I was living on my own half of the time for the first time in 18 years). When I would eat a bunch of donuts for dinner, at first I would feel this sense of freedom that “I can do whatever I want!” and then later, I would berate myself for my seemingly childish nature. Then the next time I wanted junk for dinner, I would restrict myself (like I would a child) because it was “for my own good.”
It took me a long time to learn more about my habit energy with this cycle and to recognize that I was not showing myself any compassion at all as I tried to change this for myself. Once I softened and showed myself deep compassion in this area of my life instead of rigid harshness, I naturally began to make choices that were more balanced and supported my wellbeing.
Approaching wellbeing from the perspective of awareness, love, and compassion creates a simple yet strong foundation for wellbeing and this is where I come from when working with my clients. I love to take things that initially seem complex and overwhelming and help to make them simple and accessible (without watering them down or making anyone feel stupid in the process).
My 2 decades of working with children with special needs taught me that we humans have the ability to make things as complicated or as simple as we’d like and what I see out there in the wellness industry right now is a lot of unnecessary complication.
Contrary to what’s out there, being well doesn’t need to be so complicated and it doesn’t require a lot of fancy equipment. Start to get to know yourself, start to love yourself, and show yourself some compassion in the process. As you are considering and contemplating wellbeing in your life, try asking yourself “Is (fill in the blank) helping me to cultivate awareness, love, and compassion?” This simple tool can help you to navigate your own wellbeing journey from a grounded and conscious place.
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